I came from a conservative Christian background that instilled a culture of fear and shame around sex and sexuality. The sex-negative messaging that I received for so many years made it hard for me to accept/understand my own sexuality, and created a deep anxiety around physical intimacy that was affecting my relationship with my partner. We came to see Dr. M to work through some of these issues and get on a path towards the sexual intimacy that we both desired.
From day one, Dr. M created a comfortable, non-judgmental environment for us to talk about parts of our lives that we'd been socially conditioned to keep quiet about. She asked thoughtful questions that encouraged us to dig deeper and think about things differently; and she responded to our experiences and concerns with genuine compassion and insightful feedback.
The "homework" Dr. M has assigned to us over the past few months has helped us address our personal challenges and insecurities head-on, and work towards overcoming them. We've come to realize through working with her that we're not only building towards a more fulfilling sex life, we're also developing greater self-acceptance and a deeper emotional connection/vulnerability with each other. We are so thankful that we found Dr. M, and are looking forward to continuing our work together.
M.C, 29 yr old woman, same sex partner, 2018
Before going to Dr. M I had seen many therapists but none were effective. I had a major surgery done to fix my erectile problems and going to Dr. M has given me the confidence and ability to no longer worry about performance anxiety.
C.H., 39 yr old man, single, 2018
For all my life, sex was just getting it over with fast so he could be satisfied. And I couldn’t orgasm, even with masturbation. I thought something was wrong with me. Other women liked sex, or seemed to, and I just couldn’t get into it and didn’t like it. Dr. Modjoros worked with me and my husband for about a year, and it turns out that I actually really like being touched --in certain ways. And I started to explore and practice feeling pleasure, and I did it!
Orgasms are great! I think I was holding back my orgasms all those years, maybe afraid to be sexual? Now, sex is great and I feel like a weight has been lifted off of me. My husband and I, despite our busy lives with young children and too many responsibilities, are the happiest we’ve ever been in 18 years. Thank you Dr. M!
R.P., 44 yr old woman, male partner, 2017
For years I had vulvodynia that would flare up unexpectedly. I never knew when the pain would come back, and sex was painful and scary. I tried to ignore it, but eventually, it could not be ignored. Dr. Modjoros worked with me, my partner, and my sex medicine doctors, and the pain slowly faded. Now, I know what to do if it flares again, but so far I’ve been a year pain free! I’m so happy to feel sexual again!
35 yr old woman, male partner, 2016
Thank you, thank you, thank you Dr. Modjoros! I never really knew how my own sexual parts worked, and I always depended on my then-husband to bring me to orgasm, and then I felt mad and guilty at the same time since I didn’t even want to have sex. Now, that I’m divorced and dating, and I can actually tell my partners what I like and what I want! The process was sometimes hard, but I’m so happy I came to see you!
D.G. 48 yr old woman, divorced, dating men and women, 2019
Enjoying sex was so hard when it seemed like a chore, just something else I had to do to please my spouse. The more irritable she was about our sex life, the less fun the sex was, and the more I avoided sex. By the time we came to see Dr. Modjoros, we were basically roommates. I wanted to fix my “low libido” but I didn’t know how. In therapy we figured it out. We learned how to be with each other without putting pressure on the other. That’s what I needed! I really enjoy our sex now because it is fun and enjoyable, and not work.
P.S. 35 yr old man, married, 2017
I didn’t really know what we were getting. Now that we’ve got it, it feels great. You have helped enhance our intimacy and our partnership together.
A.C., 70 yr old man, female partner, 2018
The doctors never told me how to handle my husband’s hypersexual side effects related to his Parkinson’s -- undressing me at dinner table, telling me I need to dress more sexy, and blaming me when he didn’t remember to take his viagra. So I was constantly trying to manage his frustration and anger and basically nagging him to take his viagra or other meds so I could avoid his anger.
Thank god for Dr. Modjoros! She was able to work with us and now we know how better to manage our sex life during this chapter. I still plan for sex, but now we have a system where neither of us feels attacked or slighted or nagged.
58yr old woman, husband with Parkinson’s Disease, 2016
Opening up and discussing such private matters as sexual health is not necessarily an easy task. Yet, my wife and I have found in Dr. Modjoros a trustworthy, caring, and truly helpful professional who has allowed us to face uncomfortable truths and grow stronger as a couple. Dr. Modjoros' approach to sexual health draws from several schools and theories, which makes sessions both therapeutic and informative. Dr, Modjoros investigates not only problems but also seeks out root-causes, and explores a variety of solutions and treatments. I wish we did not need help with our sexual life. But since we do, I am glad that we consult with Dr. Modjoros and would recommend her to anyone.
Marc. B.